Greetings


Welcome to Coming Out for Christians.  My name is Dave.  I have put these web pages together after much prayer and soul searching in response to God’s leading.  The purpose of these web pages is to facilitate a gracious and Godly atmosphere for those who are coming out as gay or lesbian to their families, friends, and / or church.  My apologies to those who are transgender as I have not studied this as much so I do not cover that here.  (Eventually, in the future, I will have a section on this as well) 

There are a variety of opinions, beliefs, and concerns about gay and lesbian questions such as …
  • Is a person born gay?  
  • Can I be Christian and be gay?  
  • How can I come out to my parents?  
  • My son or daughter or friend has just come out and I don’t know what to do.   

These pages attempt to answer these and other questions you may have.   The purpose is to help all who have been touched by this since there is much misunderstanding.   

Most websites try to get everyone to believe the same thing about homosexuality. That is not what I am trying to do.  Instead it is my hope to facilitate an attitude of respect and understanding so that relationships are not broken and God’s grace can abound.  It is only when God's grace is abounding in an atmosphere of Christ's love and peace that people can grow in Christ and be encouraged in their personal journey. This is also called 'safe harbor'. 

Safe harbor is needed because there has been much hurt projected to those who are gay and lesbian from some in the church.  While there are issues about which some of us in the church may never agree I do believe that we can find common ground in Christ.   If God through Christ can tear down the dividing wall between the Jews and the Gentiles (see Ephesians  2:14) and take out the enmity between them, then surely He can do that here as well.   

Let me say up front that every situation is different.  While I certainly hope these pages are helpful to you I cannot guarantee success in the relationships you are working with.  You will ultimately have to use your own judgment for your specific situation.  .Even if you are not a Christian and your parents / friends are or vice versa, I hope you will find these pages helpful. 



Disclaimer 

I believe that what I have written on this website is within the boundaries of  the theology and beliefs of my denomination.  However, homosexuality is a very complex topic with varied viewpoints.  Since this is the case, it should be understood that the views expressed by myself and other Christians on this website and in our blog and / or forums (if we have them) may not necessarily reflect the official position of my / their respective denominations.  Additionally, when / if I reference various web resources it should not be assumed to be an endorsement of the entirety of that resource.