Letter for those who are Exgay
Greetings,

If you are truly exgay that ultimately means you are straight.  I rejoice
with you that you have found peace with God in the path you have
taken.

However, while you have found peace with God in your path I do not
believe that your solution works for everyone.  Every human being is
unique and what is true for one is not true for all.

There are several things that concern me about the institution of
exgay ministries.  One concern is that exgay institutions are often
politically antigay.   Another is that they seem to offer only one
solution and condemn other solutions. Several exgay ministries are
starting to recognize this .

I had seen some signs of potential change in groups such as
Exodus.  However it now appears that Exodus has gone back to
being political.  They still foster an 'us vs.them' mentality that is not
conducive to creating  safe harbor for folks who are lgbt.  For
example, here in Alan Chamber’s  ’blog,  it initially appears that Alan
is going to go in a new direction but then seems to fall back on the
old political agenda (Alan Chambers is the head of Exodus, an
international exgay ministry). On their website as well it is clear that
they are still pushing a political agenda.  It is rather ironic in light of
the political agenda of exodus that they would take part in this. where
they condemn the APA for being involved with politics.  There has
been some concern from folks affiliated with Exodus that their
political agenda and condemnation of anything but an exgay path is
hurtful to ministry.  I would echo that concern.

I believe that it is because of these concerns that New Direction has
broken their affiliation with Exodus. Wendy Gritter, head of New
Direction in Canada has some things to say that reflect this change
of direction.  You can read about that here. (this site includes an
audio download of her presentation).  And Wendy’s presentation to
Exodus at their leadership conference  (when they were still an
Exodus affiliate) can be found here in PowerPoint form

Wendy also was featured on Exgay watch.  Her position and the
many responses to it can be found here.  You see through the
responses to her that many have been wounded by exgay ministries
and there is much healing needed.  For the reaction after they broke
affiliation with Exodus click here.

So, please understand that while I am happy for you as an individual
and certainly support you in your personal journey, I do not support
the institution of exgay ministries.  Their very narrow viewpoint and
persistence in politics is not, in my opinion, conducive to helping
people and coming alongside them in their journey. Feel free to
email me if you have any questions by using my contact page

God bless,

Dave

PS.  For more of my concerns about exgay ministries click here